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How to Deal with Loneliness? #UnplugWithSadhguru

Most people cannot handle freedom. They are always trying to bind themselves,
but only talking, mouthing freedom all the time Because freedom needs courage, Freedom needs a certain madness. They can capture me, they can torture me,
they can do so many things but they cannot invade me. See all the boys must learn songs like this,
otherwise you can’t floor the girls How to deal with loneliness? Lavanya: Despite being surrounded by so many people we still lack that feeling of belonging to somebody being accepted by somebody, being loved by somebody. How should we deal with that
discontent and loneliness? Sadhguru: On one level, many questions are
aimed towards, “How can I be free from this and that?” Another level, you are asking,
“How can I bind myself to something or somebody?” You must decide, what is the highest value in your life –
freedom or bondage? Please, I would like to hear that word. (Participants shout in unison “Freedom”). Sadhguru: Oh, freedom, (Gestures) hmm! But, if you are free, you feel lost. If you go into the mountains and you are totally free –
that is, nobody around, nothing around, you’re just in the empty space of the mountains
– you don’t feel free, you think you are lost. So, to handle freedom,
it needs a certain clarity and strength. Most people cannot handle freedom. They are always trying to bind themselves but only talking, mouthing freedom all the time. If you really set them free, they will suffer immensely. So, this is a evolutionary issue. In the sense, human beings are right now like this –
a caged bird if you keep a bird caged for a long period of time, and then one day you took off the door of the cage, still the bird won’t fly. From inside, it’ll protest that it’s not free, but it’ll not fly. Human condition is just that. For all other creatures, nature has drawn two lines within which they have to live and die, and
that’s what they do. But only for human beings, there’s only bottom line,
there’s no top line and that’s what they are suffering. If their life was also fixed like every other creature’s life,
they wouldn’t be stressed, they wouldn’t be anxious, they wouldn’t be struggling
how to handle their own intelligence. And that is what you are seeking unknowingly. You may seek it in the form of relationships,
you may seek it in the form of profession, you may seek it in the form of
nationality, ethnicity, community, God, heaven, hell. All you are trying to do is,
draw an artificial line which does not exist. Because freedom needs courage,
freedom needs a certain madness (Laughs). If you are very sane, you cannot be free because
you will go between the two lines of logic. To be free, it takes lot of strength, that if you… First of all what needs to happen if you want to be free is do you understand that
all human experience has a chemical basis to it? Hello? Participants: Yes. Sadhguru: What you call as joy is one kind of chemistry,
misery is another kind of chemistry, stress is one kind of chemistry, anxiety another
kind of chemistry, agony one kind of chemistry, ecstasy another kind of chemistry. At least ecstasy you know
it’s another kind of chemistry (Few Laugh). I hear (Laughs). So, your experience of life has a chemical basis to it. This is the most superficial way of looking at it,
there are other dimensions to it, but for your understanding… Or in other words, what you call as “myself” right now,
you are a chemical soup. The question is only,
are you a great soup or a lousy soup. Yes or no? Right now, if you have a chemistry of blissfulness (Laughs), if you close your eyes, it’s fantastic, if you open your eyes, it’s fantastic, if somebody is here, it’s fantastic, nobody is here, it’s very fantastic, Yes or no? But you have a lousy chemistry. If you look at them,
if they smile at you it’s nice, not fantastic. If they look at you like this (Gestures),
suddenly it’s a problem. If these people are happening just the way you want,
your chemistry is reasonably balanced. If they do something that you don’t like,
boom! it goes somewhere else. So, essentially, you have not looked at this
(Referring to oneself) mechanism, what is the basis of this, how it functions,
how I can make it function at its highest level. Right now, let’s say you’re really blissed out, like me, do you care who is around, who is not around? If they are around, it’s fantastic. They’re gone, fantastic. Because (Laughs) your experience of life is no more determined by what you have and what you don’t have, whether it’s people or things or food or this or that,
it is not determined by that. Once your way of being is not determined by anything outside of you, then there is no such thing as loneliness, but you will enjoy your aloneness because whether you like it or you don’t like it – at this young age,
it’s a little difficult to understand this whether you like it or you don’t like it,
within this body, you are always alone, isn’t it? Whether you do interaction or intercourse
or whatever, whatever, whatever, still you are alone in this body, yes or no? Hello? Participants: Yes. Sadhguru: If you don’t learn
how to handle this aloneness, you have not learnt anything about life. This is the most beautiful thing (Applause). The most beautiful thing about life is,
nobody can get here (Referring to oneself), it’s just my space, yes or no? Isn’t this the most beautiful thing? Nobody can invade me. They can capture me, they can torture me,
they can do so many things, but they cannot invade me because
I have a space which is just my own. Isn’t this the most wonderful aspect of your life? Don’t suffer that – that is the most beautiful thing. Oh, but you want to pine little romantically
and enjoy that… what? Tch, what are those songs, popular songs? Pining for somebody, “Without you I cannot exist” (Laughter). Lavanya: Most of the songs are that way now. Sadhguru: Sing one song, no (Laughter)? Older ones, older ones. Lavanya: I’m horrible at singing. Sadhguru: Hmm? Lavanya: I’m horrible at singing. Sadhguru: Just tell me the words, I will sing. Participant: हम तेरे बिन अब रह नहीं सकते,
तेरे बिना क्या वजूद मेरा (Applause)? You’re saying it to me (Laughter)? Sadhguru: Okay, okay. I got it. Participant: Sriram is a singer. Sadhguru: Sriram, that song what he is saying… (Sriram sings the line – “हम तेरे बिन अब रह नहीं सकते,
तेरे बिना क्या वजूद मेरा?”) (Audience cheers) Sadhguru: See all the boys must learn songs like this,
otherwise you can’t floor the girls (Laughter/Applause). But the girls should understand
the guy has a need and he is doing this. It’s not really true but
let’s enjoy the game right now (Applause). Because what we do is just a certain…
it’s a certain game. Life is, because it comes to an end. But the important thing is, how are you within yourself. If you are here in such a way that
you are only driven by your needs you will live a very meager life. But if you can sit here without any need,
but you will do whatever is needed then you will live a magnificent life. It’s my wish and my blessing,
every one of you must have a fantastic life. Make it happen for yourself (Applause).

100 thoughts on “How to Deal with Loneliness? #UnplugWithSadhguru

  1. Pure existence is no equation or a specific purpose in space-time, it is simply a timeless unconditional truth..just replace fullness by emptiness and you will see..

  2. I don't know a lot of these gurus seem to talk in riddles almost….gets confusing to even listen to. So how do you handle this aloneness like he said?!

  3. i think this gets it right compared to the western way which sadly encourages counter intuitive deception not of yourself to fit in and belong. Im glad he emphasises on how these intentions make you feel before just assigning you to establish a contact commitment without examining if thats ultimately what will bring a positive change to the life you seek.

  4. Sadguru is speechles saint…. I feel blessed with him
    …… When ever i am in tension or displeasure his words make me free

  5. We lost the courage to handle the life. Even the loved ones bully severely that which makes us feel like dead.

  6. Takes a while to understand and realize the game. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

    Namaskaram Sadhguru 🙏🏾.. thanks for Sharing you wisdom.

  7. Can somebody guide me if we can write( our thought war inside us/questions) to sadhguru and get answer from him
    Coz i see so many channel by his name ….

  8. ☺️i will meet u soon ….after doing what the creator wants…..😊he will be proud..☺️ I will try my best sir. IAS

  9. 8:44 just wow.. thank you Sadhguru. I'll write this quote down and stick it somewhere in my room. And I'll read it everytime I'm feeling lonely.

  10. I enjoy being alone and I don't feel lonely. When I am by myself, I can use my energy in the best way. Thank you Sadhguru. I am blessed to know you.

  11. Good talk. I am interested in how long people can be alone by themselves without feeling lonely also. Like two weeks? A month?
    It all depends on what people can feel good with.. And im not sure how the time affects human minds either. Some are probably alone or by themselves for years.. Maybe meditation in the mountains, etc.. When it comes to humans i guess one week or more would make most wanting to connect with humans again. It's an interesting subject loneliness or freedom. Freedom was a good word for it. 😉

  12. Very true. Though I don't agree with him always; specially the tricky answers where he contradicts himself. But, this session is very good.

  13. Its just that I want to stay quiet and no one near me.but when someone look at me I don't want them to think I am lonely

  14. It is little difficult to understand in this young age "whether you like it or don't like it, you are always alone in this body"

  15. 2:03 this is exactly why the fictional character, Andy Dufresne, is so inspiring to his inmate and hopeless caged bird, Red

  16. I am happy in my freedom. I dont need anybody. Life exhilirates me enough. Problem is the society and people. They think I am abnormal and consider me a freak, for being blissful in me & my work. Indian society can't comprehend this. It will take lot of courage to make the colonial leftovers to understand what our own civilization and spirituality was actually about. Somebody with courage can break the norm. Sadhguru is already doing it.

  17. He has bond his self to Shiva. It is not freedom, it is knowing who you are and sharing that with others just as he does. He dies it on a working mode but what about personal? Who is his mate? Where is his family unit?

  18. I am baffled by people who suffer from loneliness. I enjoy being alone. I spent a few years alone. I grew very strong mentally and physically. It seems to me that people are magnetic and are drawn to each other by nature. As ones relationship with self grows strong, others are attracted to it like a moth to a flame.

  19. The weird thing, i used to enjoy spending time alone. But now, being alone scares me. I can’t handle it. I now how to enjoy being alone but now i can’t.

  20. I used to think love was the ultimate but after BSP I now know it's freedom 🙏🙏🙏 deep gratitude to you my Guru 🙏🙏🙏

  21. Can someone please elaborate the ending line that is " if you live here in a way driven by your needs, then you r life will be miserable. But if you sit here without any need and do things which is needed then life will be happy".
    Do things which is needed: what does this mean? You need it inside and thats why you are doing the needed thing right or acting on it right ? And on the other side Sadhguru is saying living with needs inside is miserable. Confused.

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