Hey, this is Mat Boggs with Cracking the Man
Code. At my last Man Code event, there was a women
who asked a question to the man panel. At the end, I always have these man panels with
three or four guys that have come to sit in the hot seat and answer any question the women
want to know about love, sex, dating, relationships, what have you. And a woman asked the question:
“How do I get my man to do more of what I want basically? How do I get him to anticipate
my needs? How do I get him to be more chivalrous, more romantic?”
And one of the men, named Stephen, gave a great answer. He said, “You know, most women
want men to anticipate their needs just like you’re saying. Most women will drop hints
here and there and expect men to pick up on those hints and then do what it is that they
want.” He goes, “That’s impossible. You know, you’ve got to be direct when you’re
communicating with a man.” A friend of mine always says, you know, “Men don’t speak
hint.” And it’s true. We don’t. You’ve got to be direct when communicating what you
want with a man. And then he said this: “Be direct and preface it with this statement:
‘You want to know what would really turn me on?’” And everyone busted up and started
laughing and the funny part it it’s funny and it’s true.
You preface anything with that statement and you will instantly have a man’s attention,
because you want to know what turns all men on? It’s women who use the phrase “turns
me on.” You see, every man has their sense of worth hard-wired to their ability to provide
for you mentally, emotionally, and definitely physically. That is where our sense of worth
comes from is our ability to make you happy, our ability to fulfill your needs, you see?
As one of these marriage masters that we interviewed around the country said (the guy’s been
married over forty years), “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Alright? So
our sense of happiness comes from our ability to make you happy.
Now, there’s two other phrases. Ultimately, what we’re getting at here is the art of
man-suasion, right? How to really connect and communicate with a man so that he knows
how to serve you best because truly we will just at the opportunity. Two other phrases
that really impact us are, “Can you help me with this?” and, “You want to know
what would really make me happy?” Sometimes you might feel uncomfortable or the situation
doesn’t really call for a “turn me on” statement, so you can use the one, “You
want to know what would really make me happy?” And that works quite well.
So if you’ve liked this material, you can get more at the next Cracking the Man Code
event. We’re going to have a brand new man panel. Or if you’re not in the area, you
can download the entire seminar. There’s a link right below this. Watch it from the
comfort of your own computer. And we’re going to go into the three mistakes that most
women make early on in a relationship that pushes men away. See, I don’t believe is
mistakes. Ultimately, it’s simply a miss-take. A mistake is a miss-take, a strategy that
just really doesn’t work quite as well. So, hope you’re doing well and I will talk
to you soon.